you truly cannot build healthy fulfilling relationships in your life if you have no clue on who you truly are. authenticity has many definitions and means so many different things to others but the bottom line is Authenticity happens when your words, actions, and behaviors consistently match your core identity. finding your true unapologetic self is frustrating yet rewarding. it is not easy. it is uncomfortable. but finding the comfort in the uncomfort is part of the process.
- Self-auditing/Personal Inventory
Self auditing and taking personal inventory on yourself is vital. how many hours a day do you mindlessly scroll on social media? what songs do you tend to listen to the most? what activities bring you the most joy? is your job/schooling enjoyable or fulfilling? What foods brings you joy?
These questions simply just scratch the surface. In order to truly know yourself, you need to dig deep. Ask yourself questions —
– When things go wrong what feelings do I tend to feel?
– What are my triggers and why?
– Who am I with when I feel like my true self?
– Am I simply just the person that I am perceived as by my loved ones?
After reflecting, piece it together.
Hang out more with people who bring out the best in you.
Dig deep into your triggers.
If you feel as though you shape-shift with different friend groups, ask yourself why?
Why do you morph into the people you surround yourself with?
Do you feel your authentic self isn’t good enough?
These questions are hard to answer but their answers are important to unlocking another dimension of yourself.
You need to keep peeling back your authentic self layer by layer. - Check-in with yourself regularly
Life moves fast. But time does not slow down for anyone. The world will keep going. Taking just ten minutes a day to talk to yourself. checking in with yourself will help you notice when you are being inauthentic. If there’s someone, something, an emotion, a stressor, etc living in your head constantly, ask yourself why. Are you okay with it? How does it impact your day? Just being able to distinguish if it is good or bad is enough. - Recognize your internal and external motivators
Internal Motivator: Internal motivators are those drives and desires that come from deep within. I’m talking about heart dreams that push you to become a better person and pursue your goals.
External Motivator: External motivators refer to decisions you make based on external factors, like money, status, views, likes, recognition, or expectations from other people.
Differentiating between the two will help you tap into your intuition and help you know your “why”
the “Why” is one of the most important questions to ask yourself in order to live a life of authenticity and fulfillment.
Why do you want to choose that career?
Why do you want to be in a relationship with that individual?
Why pick that school?
Why forgive that person?
Why does that specific movie make you cry?
always make time for the “why’s” - Create an environment your higher self will thrive in
Take a personal inventory of who in your life brings in the best and worst in you.
Who do you go to when you need advice?
Who adds to your stress?
Who is your peace?
Who is your pain?
you deserve to live in a world of safety
you deserve to be able to say anything without fear of judgment
you deserve a community that helps you sore above horizons you couldn’t have possibly imagined seeing
but at the same time, you need to be your communities light.
give back
learn but also teach
whatever you put into the universe, comes back to you
if you are intentional and search for community, that community will find you.
to end it off ~
living in authenticity is living freely.
being able to go with the flow
abundance and joy will find you effortlessly
genuine relationships will be created
core values will be met and lived by
be who you are to the core
the person who sings in the shower
who has dance parties behind closed doors
the soul that craves connection and spirit
it definitely won’t be easy
being your true self takes courage.
lots of it
it won’t happen overnight
but you will get there
one step at a time ❤
MySimplicity 